customs in the wedding

we should give the priority towards traditional customs.

buddhist and hindu religionists give priority towards customs. but these customs are obviously differ from one another.

people comment on giving priority toward customs in various types of ways.

some say it's difficult to give priority towards thing because it costs a lot.

some people say the success of wedding life depends on love, affection, interact understanding in a couple and in vain to get involved with customs.

we couldn't accept that it costs a lot because it you can control expenses for musical groups, photographers, hotels you can easily do all the customs.

it takes a slight expenditure for customs when we compare the expenses mentioned above.

you feel lots of new responsibilities come and would have to step into another world and the relaxed life you spend at home would ended.

all your relations gather in a same ground on that day.

this opportunity would be important for you because we don't get a chance to meet

everyone even once a year.

the affectionate, love between you, would be fresh again.

it adds a hounour through the wedding and they heartily feel it and it helps them to protect their family life on every barriers.

all the customs should be done according to the auspicious time.

by that, we hope to minimize most barriers between them according to the planetaries.

it's good if you can give priority towards customs because it makes a convinced to the lives of wedding couple.

if you can see a auspicious time before 3 months it would be better.

you should tell your needs directly to the astrologer.

if he points our your errors in the horoscope, you would better follow his word. it doesn't suit to put a auspicious times at night.

mostly, auspicious times are made the months which bloom flowers, most people select a date after 15 th of april.

all the auspicious times should not be made in a way, the wedding couple would not get much weary.

and also, if we don't match all auspicious times, it would create a mess at your wedding.

you should give everyone betel at least before a month in a auspicious time and after that you can handover your horoscope back to the astrologer.

after that, you can keep oil frying pans and should start to fry sweets.

bridegroom should exit from the house according to the auspicious time because this is the most precious moment in his life.

sometimes family members have not prepared to the auspicious time of the bridegroom.

sometimes there would be a wide gap the auspicious time he should go out from the home and, the time we should have to reach the wedding hall.

so, the bridegroom get depressed, tired and would have to stay out several hours.

we can see obviously the connections of auspicious times home important to us.

although the arrival and exit occurred according to the auspicious time, but this auspicious time doesn't need if you're taking you're wedding a hotel.

according to the auspicious time of eating milk rice, bridegroom will be feeded some milk rice by the mother of the bride.

that is also a traditional custom

there is a very especial custom that is washing bride groom's feet when he comes to the house of bride

this is done by the youngest brother of the bride and , this brother in law would be gifted a gold ring also

wedding couple should come near to the poruwa at least before a few minutes before get on to that

she should get on to the poruwa by the left hand side

crowd of adults and the father of the bride bring her to the poruwa

the bride groom should provide betal leaves according to the custom. first they must dedicate a sheaf of betel leves for buddha, dhamma and sanga. then it holds a higher place uppon the heads.

after that they would drop 7 betal leaves on to the poruwa for their passed away relations

after that they will worship and have the blessings of mother,father, and close relatives

wedding couple would be get down by their father or uncle

they should step right leg ahead when getting down from the poruwa

all the customary affairs would end after fulfilling poruwa customs and legal affairs would start after that

mostly we find most people hold talks by keeping them in the front area of the house after the wedding

this act should not be done because they may easily get tired

this auspicious time not use to step out from the house but to set out from the house

still these customs have not erased in our n our tradition because cultural heritages are include in our customs

we can see so many differences in customs when we look on to past days and present days

there have been so many regional differences in past day weddings

there were different kinds of customs in hill country, northern area, southern area and circumlittoral area

if we turn 4 generations back there were only traditional marriages and no legal marriages

we can see all these ways have mixed up at present. and also both legal and traditional include in a marriage

those days there were almost all the traditional customs, exchanging their rings and all the poruwa customs

in addition to that there were different types of regional customs also

we believe, the beauty of wedding ceremony depend on traditional customs we do

legal marriage system came with the arrival of dutch

at present the marriage will be legal by singeing them and 2 signs of witness in front of the registrar

these are the customs and the traditions of the sri lankan marriages